Choose Your Struggle

…Everybody enjoys what feels good… everybody wants that. It’s easy to want that. A more interesting question, a question that most people don’t consider, is, “What pain do you want in your life?”
“What are you willing to struggle for?” Because that seems to be a greater determinant in how our lives turn out… because happiness requires struggle. It grows from problems. Because happiness doesn’t just sprout of the ground like daisies and rainbows. Real, serious life-long fulfillment and meaning have to be earned through the choosing and managing of our struggles. Whether you struggle from anxiety or loneliness or an obsessive/compulsive disorder…the solution lies in the acceptance and active engagement of that negative experience. Not the avoidance of it; not the salvation from it.
….People want to start their own business, but you don’t end up a successful entrepreneur unless you find a way to appreciate the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures, the insane hours that may lead to something that may earn absolutely nothing…you can’t win if you don’t play. What determines your success isn’t, “what do you want to enjoy?” The relevant question is, what pain do you want to sustain. The path to happiness is a path full of shit heaps and shame. You have to choose something. It can’t be rainbows and unicorns, all the time…
You can’t have a pain free life…what is the pain that you want to sustain? That’s the hard question that matters… it’s the question that can change a perspective; a life. It’s what makes me, me, and you, you. It’s what defines us and separates us and ultimately brings us together…
…Who you are is defined by what you’re willing to struggle for…


Mark Manson
– ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living The Good Life’

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